Day 1: On Wearing a Mouth Guard

 “A cup brimful of sweetness cannot spill even one drop of bitter water, no matter how suddenly jarred.” 

Communication is the quality and quantity of the connection we share.

Words are the tether between us, disclosing what’s truly in us.

 “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks” (Luke 6:45)

Our words reflect our hearts. Our communication problems are essentially … heart problems

What kind of tie exists between you, in light of your communication? What brand of humanity is exposing itself between you? Does it display an eagerness to throw something or someone under the bus—or a heart of graciousness, even when jostled?

When you care about the quality of your communication, you understand the role it plays in keeping your love alive—and a relationship that gives life to both of you.

Ephesians 4:29
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

1. No talk that corrupts (breaks down).

2. Only talk that builds up.

3. Talk with appropriate timing.

4. Talk that gives grace to everyone listening.


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